Resurrecting Wight People

There is so much to say.

I'd like to say some of it here, and a little more often.

But where do I start when there has been so much time between posts and I haven't written in a LONG time and there is a whole heck of a lot on my heart. Anyways, since the last post, BOLDER WAS BORN!!! I think that might be a good story to tell first...

November 19th

One year ago today was one of the absolute best days of my life.

November 19th, 2008 I found out I was pregnant with my sweet tiny baby Telia. Never has there been such rejoicing over blessing- such a miracle moment to find out we were expecting. It was the perfect gift from God and I just radiated with excitement and love for our unborn child. I will never, ever forget how good it felt that day.

I had no idea that I would only walk around with that mind-blowingly wonderful news for a month, and then the baby I fell so in love with would pass on to be with the Lord.

But how amazing to have loved?

Love that strong is impossible to forget. And we can celebrate that! I have been thinking a lot about those weeks of pregnancy last year, and they are the sweetest thoughts a mama could think! I loved those weeks. I will always cherish those weeks I had with my baby girl.

Don't wait to celebrate the life of your child until you're "out of harm's way". Do we actually think we know what harm is and when it will hit? That we'll ever be "safe"? There is no magical number of days or weeks that you can cash in for assurance of life. Because no 12 week mark, no delivery, no status of health-strength-years... can bring us peace. Only the love of our Heavenly Father can bring us that peace, despite potential storms. And if the storm hits, He will continue to give. He'll give you hope. He can restore your heart, making previous tragedy into sweet memories. He did that for me. And on top it all, he blessed me with Bolder. Another child to fall head over heels in love with! Sometimes I just shake my head because I don't know how I could be so blessed to so deeply love 3 different children with all that I am?!!! And the only one I've yet to meet face to face is my Silas.

Now, Bolder's impending arrival is any time...but I can't help but be slightly bummed out that this won't be his Birthday. I've been hoping in the back of my heart that this day could bring forth the miracle of life that we began celebrating in Telia exactly a year ago. That I would finally hold another of my precious children in my arms after such an exceptionally hard year for our family. Things have been asked of us that have taken immense physical, emotional and mental toll on each of us. I wanted today to hold a blessing that could quiet the past 12 months and bring fresh air to the Wight house. I wanted my Telia and she beat me to heaven. And now I want my Bolder and can hardly wait for the labor that will bring him to me.

I want to encourage every parent out there...do not withhold your love. Do not guard your hearts. Your child is a gift today. I've had about 33 months to fall for Silas, I had 8 weeks to fall for Telia, and so far, I've had 40 weeks to fall for Bolder.

The greatest gift, and you hold it in this moment. So it's a truly blessed day. Be brave to love and allow yourself to fall.

It will be the best days of your life.

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Giveaway!!!

Not ours, but it is benefiting a cause we find to be one of the greatest. The Ladd family is on their quest to bring a baby girl home as their own from Ethiopia! They can't do it without our help.

We are firm believers in scripture, and scripture says in James 1:27, "Religion that is pure and undefiled before God is this, to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world." ESV

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Adoption is a beautiful thing. As we are adopted into God's family through the blood of Jesus Christ, and His atonement for us, some of us are called to do the same for the orphans today. I am so grateful for a pair of hearts like Leigh and Gray, who listen to the Lord and follow as he puts desires on their hearts and leads them towards one of His precious sheep. Praise the Lord!

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Long time coming.

The big Wight story continues, and I want to keep writing about it. The reason it’s been OH SO LONG is that there is much to say, and after all this time there is no eloquence with which I feel I can start to say any of it. And it’s big stuff, and I want to share.

I want to apologize for withholding the beauty of hope that we’ve been blessed with. My life is sculpted by The Maker and I don’t want to keep His work hidden. I want to share it in a more timely manner from here on out! So here goes!

We are 5 months pregnant with a little baby boy! His name is Bolder Ephraim and we are just itching to get our hands on him and I’m not so patiently waiting for sweet November to come and bring the birth of our second son. Really love him. Beyond tons.

Why Bolder? Why Ephraim? Why share his name before he’s born?

Bolder. We just love it. Can’t think of a better reason.

Ephraim. A Biblical name that means “ The Lord has made me fruitful in the land of my affliction.” After losing Telia, hope of a healthy pregnancy seemed faint and horrifying. My precious Father had such a dear plan for us, and graciously bestowed the blessing of another child to love. I am floored that in that muttered state of weakness and sorrow and affliction, He would bring such joy, such hope, such fruit so quickly.
He is a great God. My son is an incredible, undeserved gift.

Why tell his name already? Because nobody should have to keep their own secrets if they don’t feel like it. It’s a nice little freedom :).

As for my heart. This is the month we would have been expecting our little girl to make her grand appearance into our family. Life would have looked a whole lot different. I thought I would be more sad…not that I’m not, no way, I very much mourn our loss. But a few months ago I just thought I wouldn’t be happy again. Truly happy. And I am. Or at least I’m getting there. What started out so completely devastating is turning into acceptance and “sweetness”. I don’t know how else to describe it. I have a wise friend/sister who has also been through miscarriage and she understood what I mean by that. She said “It goes from bitter, to bitter-sweet, to sweet.” That is how it is for me. You think you won’t get there and when you do, it becomes such a special part of your life story as you learn to accept the relationship you had and have now with the child you lost, even though you will always long for the relationship that would have been. It becomes sweet. Sweet to remember the baby girl I love. Sweet to see pictures of myself the season I was pregnant with her. Sweet to touch the newborn diapers I bought when we found out we were expecting such a gift. Sweet to cling to the blanket given to me when I lost her. Sweet to remember how thrilled and joyful I was that short period she was alive. Sweet that I can never, never, never lose that.

And sweet that the Lord has more plans for our lives. He gives and takes away, and this year He has done both in the Wight family. He has taken away a LOT. He has also blessed a LOT. We will continue to praise Him.

Lord, thank you, for the 3 children you have so far given us to love. May we love them well!

Pregnant with baby Bolder! Due November 23, 2009!

As I tell them about you.

They are all finding out.
Finding out news that we would be finding out too.

I already knew the answer, though.

I would give anything to see your little body moving around on that black and white screen and cry and nod and laugh when they told me. It's a girl. I know.

I couldn't wait for March. It's here and we would know for sure and we would start buying you dresses and shoes. I think that is all you would have worn! And always a bow in your hair. Always. You would have probably sucked your thumb in the ultrasound picture. You would probably be measuring really big. That happens to Wight babies. I would still be smiling through my ears! You are one of the most beautiful and happy things that have ever happened to me.

At the consignment shop I couldn't help myself. I walked past a stand full of dresses and immediately knew what dress you would have worn at Christmas next year. Baby's First. You would have been dazzling for sure. I also found you a pair of shoes. They wouldn't have done for Christmas but would be perfect any other time. Good thing your dad was with me because he spoke reason and we didn't buy either. I thought maybe I could buy them and give them to another baby girl...but I knew I couldn't. They should have been yours.

On the way to a baby shower a couple weeks ago I was in a horrible mood. I mean, I had already been to two baby showers before this one, why was I sooooo grouchy and mad? Oh. This was for a lady baby. One who would have for sure been one of your BEST friends. Little Ava Marie. I realized that indeed I was grouchy. I was supposed to be attending this shower with joy and anticipation in my heart for our pink shower. I would have been touching my belly and squealing at all the adorable onesies and blankets. Instead I ran in the other room crying and spent the whole shower sucking in my non-pregnant jelly belly as hard as I could so that no one would ask about you. Some of the world's most best friends made a hedge around me in that moment and I did feel support and love but no matter how good the champagne or the friend, they can't change the facts. You are gone and I miss you so bad. And it didn't help that every belly at the shower was bursting with life but my own. It is hard to feel alive at times like those. I sure want to be in heaven at times like those.

This past month I had started to finally be a bit angry with God. Or, irate to be honest. There are countless miracles occuring all around me. Shocking, perfect and wonderful miracles. Many include pregnancies and babies. When everyone was so happy I found myself even more upset. All these unbelievable miracles of life. So, WHY, GOD??? Why didn't you do one for me?! I am so mad at you for taking my child. I am mad that I have to see you give others children they didn't ask for while the one I begged you for wasn't able to stay with me? You could have done a miracle and you didn't. Please, Lord, tell me why. Take back the time and work a miracle for me and my daughter. I know you can. And I know you won't. And I don't know why.

But I began to realize that I was, of course, wrong. And that my God did do a miracle for us. He gave me you, Tel. You are my miracle! You are a huge beakon of love and life inside my heart. A very bright light of all things beautiful. That is you. That is you in my heart. Your life, changing my life. Changing the world. You have been used by God in greater ways than most people who get to walk this earth. Maybe anybody. I mean, girl, you are shockingly incredible! Your life was miraculous and no matter how mad and sad I still may get, I will never undermine the fact that I indeed got to experience the most amazing miracle of all.

So when they all make their announcements I will smile. If they say "it's a girl", my voice will say congratulations. My heart will say "so is mine." But I will go to their showers and I will paint for them and buy them pink dresses and pink shoes. And I will dream of you all the while. As I learn to love on them. They would have been your friends so I will make them mine as well.

I have since, been to another baby girl shower and my heart was in a better place. It was sweet to love on my dear friend, Lexi. My heart was still focused on my little girl, but a little more prepared and a little more at peace. Maybe it was the outfit and the hair. Maybe it was Jesus. Maybe I felt like I could be that happy one day too.

As I keep learning.
And I keep loving.
And I keep marvelling at the height, depth, pure crazy love of a Father. As he holds a devastated mother. Renewing her smile. Her laugh. And her life.

As I tell them about you.

Review of 22

Here is a list of twenty two things I didn't expect this past year to hold but all have changed, surprised, or enlightened me.

1. God is enough.
2. Lost 65 pounds after having Silas. It is possible if your body actually works!
3. Move 4 times. (in a week or two that number will be 5)
4. Send one of my babes to heaven.
5. Become a friend to some of the greatest.
6. Fall in love with painting.
7. I have dreams bigger than should be allowed. I will not stop.
8. Started a blog...
9. Found a cute one piece swim suit. This is an actual miracle.
10. Experienced more joys of boyhood than I knew existed!
11. Started cleaning houses for money, and liked it.
12. Gain back about 30 of the pounds I had lost. I blame most of that on the pregnancy.
13. Play Halo on xbox. I was planning on keeping that secret but I love it, don't judge me.
14. The joy of the Lord really is my strength.
15. Learned that Craigslist was designed for our family.
16. Accepted that maybe the gifts God instilled in me are just as important as seemingly more important gifts in others.
17. You can live off a lot less than you'd think.
18. I actually do like white wine better than red. I look down on myself. You can too.
19. Being called mama is sweeter than anything else in the world. Hands down.
20. Finally admit that I am allergic to everything and that I'm blind as a bat. So I'm an absolute nerd.
21. I discovered that there one good reason to drive to Puyallup.
22. Telling Thadd what I need is not only helpful, but vital to both our sanity.

I am 23 today. I will celebrate and be glad for my blessings. Glad for the growth in my life. Glad to serve the God who makes it all possible and gives and takes away. I am glad to be me.

Fish, cupcakes, and my precious 1 year old!

Looks like my pics downloaded backwards, but the story is still the same! Silas turned one on December 8th and that evening we celebrated the incredible year it was with him here to love on! In honor of his dada, the theme was fishing...what else is there?! Can't wait for his second Birthday party...Silas enjoyed "catching" the fish we passed out as party favors! Not everyone was thrilled that the goldfish were alive, but I couldn't resist. Too cute!

A bunch of big Wight guys! Silas with Thadd, Uncle Josh and Uncle David! Very excited for Si to wear this awesome jacket from Jiggle-Wiggle. Nanny brought all the fun balloons and they were a crazy hit with all the kids!

I think Si might have had enough sugar by the time we took this family picture...

But it was just SOOOOOO good!

Happy Birthday, my Love. It is a treat to raise you as my son. Celebrating your Birthday with such a fun party was a joy! You were adorable- so proud of you, Boof.

Better late than never...

This was our Christmas card picture- but it was cropped and on very cute cards! Well, we got them back the day before we lost the Telia so they never got sent out. So...this is something like you would have received had circumstances allowed. "Merry Christmas! We pray that you are blessed! Love, Wights."

Wight People to blog again!

How do I follow a blog that speaks on the topic of greatest magnitude in my life? Especially since that topic is still and always will be, a very sad happening. I still want to celebrate this life though. I want to talk about my joys. About my dreams. About my trials. I want to talk about my fears, my tears and God's strength. I want to talk about my Lord, my Loves and my Life.

Because...I have a lot to be grateful for. I have a lot to live for and a lot to account for. I don't want tragedy to outweigh and/or replace what God is doing in our family. A lot is to be documented and I am ready to get to it! I have lots of catching up to do. Honestly, pics from Silas' birthday, Christmas events, moving(the word of the year), New Years, FOOTBALL??!! and more funny Silas and more of my heart.

So, stay tuned...this Wight girl is back!